Roka

The rite

Roka fixes the alliance with tikka, sweets, and exchange of gifts before the full engagement. Pandit Mrityunjay Sharma officiates North Indian roka at Bengaluru homes with sankalp for both families, Ganesh, and blessing of the couple without promising the wedding will never break.

Before the visit, clear a clean floor or table space, stack samagri from the WhatsApp list in one place, and keep drinking water ready for elders. Share gate code, parking notes, and society rules when you message so setup is calm across Bengaluru traffic.

Time at the house: 1–2 hours

Pandit Mrityunjay Sharma does this at the house in Bengaluru. The fee is not printed on this page. It is sent on WhatsApp with the material list.

Why families book it

Compact enough for living rooms in Indiranagar when guest list is under thirty.

Social and spiritual marking of intent, not a legal contract.

Elders and children may sit nearby; the pandit pauses for brief Hindi notes so guests know when to offer flowers, ghee, or responses during mantras.

Share gotra, names, and your Bengaluru locality on WhatsApp so travel and samagri are confirmed before the day. The appointment form opens WhatsApp only; this page does not store your message.

When families ask

• When families agree verbally and want temple-style blessing at home
• Before sagai if roka is separate in your culture
• When groom’s side visits bride’s house first time formally
• When COVID-era small ceremony still matters to elders
• When you want the rite completed in one calm sitting without rushing the final arati and prasad

Short vidhi

1. Ganesh and sankalp with both gotras
2. Tikka and coconut to groom and bride
3. Exchange of fruits and sweets trays
4. Elder blessings seated
5. Short aarti
6. Meal begins after pandit leaves if custom says

The pandit confirms the order on WhatsApp before the visit.

Samagri

• Roli, chandan, and rice
• Coconuts and mithai trays
• Flowers and garlands
• Diya and incense
• Cloth for chadar custom if used
• Ring not required at roka unless family adds

The exact list for your day is sent on WhatsApp. This page does not sell a kit and does not say materials are included in a fee.

Questions

Roka vs sagai?

Roka is first fix; sagai often includes ring.

Intercaste couple?

Sankalp uses names family provides.

Photographer first?

Tikka moment after initial mantra.

Alcohol at party after?

Separate from puja; pandit not involved.

Both parents divorced families?

List blessing elders in sankalp on chat.

Guaranteed wedding date?

No outcome promise.